The Mother-in-Law

This title should say it all, right?!

I am feeling a bit like a mama lion right now so bare with me here.

My child is 6 yrs old. She is at an age where she likes to play and not just sit around. It's normal. She wouldn't be normal if she did want to just sit around and do nothing.

My daughter has a cousin who just turned 2 yrs old. This child has a mother and father who prefers to party rather than taking on their parental roles. This child (along with his mother) lives with my mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law watches my child a couple days a week while my husband and I are at work. She also takes care of her other grandchild all the time cause again, the parents are all about themselves first. However, her idea of taking care of this other grandchild is by putting him on the floor to watch TV or to play by himself while she is on the computer. all. day. long.

Now, just the other day when she was watching my child, well...in reality, my child was over there playing with her Aunt while my MIL once again was on the computer, my child overheard her say to someone that "she needs a break from taking care of her. It's just too much." First of all, SHE really wasn't watching my child, the Aunt was. This woman is lazy. She doesn't do anything but sit at the computer or watch her soaps. Meanwhile, this woman will go out of her way to drive up the street to pick up her other grandchild (the boy) when he isn't there with her cause "he likes being with me more". Are you fricken kidding me????? She'll go out of her way to pick this 2 yr old up and watch him but she needs a break from my child??? What's she gonna do when this kid is 6 like my child? What it is is that she has control over this other grandchild and she doesn't with my daughter. My MIL is a control freak and it bothers her that we open our mouth when it comes to our child when my SIL doesn't when it comes to her kid and my MIL feels like she has control.

What the hell is wrong with this woman?? I'm pissed!!!! One, for the fact that she said this in front of my child who now has her feelings hurt and two, because I feel like my child is being treated "second fiddle" to her other grandchild. My MIL wanted grand kids, so now she has them and she is playing favoritism??!!

My child is a good kid. Don't get me wrong, I'm not blind like some parents. She has her moments like all kids but she is a very well mannered kid and is sweet. However, in that house she gets away with too much. In our house there are rules but when she's over there, my MIL likes to play "good grandma" cause she is competitive and wants to be liked more than the other grandma. Sick! But for the fact that she expects my child to just sit there, watch TV and not be active like all 6 yr olds should be just so she can be lazy and play on the computer just infuriates me.

I guess I should be happy that she doesn't want to watch my child. At least I can raise my child with the rules I expect to be enforced where ever she goes. We don't have a problem anywhere else but at that house. My husband and I both are just beyond ourselves right now. My poor husband couldn't sleep last night cause he was so mad. My main concern is my child's feelings. When you mess with my kid, you mess with me!!

Having a camera handy

I carry my little Sony camera in my purse. It's always handy to have it for those moments that you're out and about or maybe when you are in a fender bender or even when you are stuck in traffic. That's right, when you're stuck in traffic. Here's my story...

I'm late to work all the time. I try to punctual but it just doesn't work for me. Don't ask me why. I know, there are some of you out there rolling your eyes because this is one of your pet peeves but seriously....I try to be on time! Don't get me wrong, I'm not late 100% of the time. My boss deals with it because I'm a good worker. Lucky for me!!!

Now, when I know I'm going to be late, I always call my boss and leave him a "courtesy call" message letting him know. When I am late, it's never more than 5 minutes late unless of course, there happens to be a car accident and that is just something I can't avoid. When he receives my message, all he has to do is look out his office window which overlooks the freeway and he can see the traffic. Only things is, the spot where his office overlooks happens to be the split to two freeways which of course, traffic picks up at that point.

So anyways, we had one of our clients come into the office and we were talking about commutes and I mentioned where I was coming from and she was all "Oh wow, you have a terrible commute" and I said to my boss "Yeah, see...she knows!" My boss was telling her that when I call and leave my message that all he does is look out his window to see if there is traffic, but remember.....he see it when the traffic picks up.

So today, while once again sitting in traffic I realize that I had my camera in my purse. Hey!!! I'll take a picture for him so he can see that I'm telling the truth!!! (LOL!) So I did and when I got to work (1 min late) I shared with him that if he cared to see the pictures I so generously took for him, I had them for his viewing pleasure. Ha! So there, buddy!

So, the moral of this story is.......always have a camera handy. You never know when you may need it!

Word of the Day....

I thought I would do a "Word of the Day" each week. We all could learn a new word, right?! Some of us may already know this word but for those of us that don't, here you go...


inanition \in-uh-NISH-uhn\, noun:
1. The condition or quality of being empty.
2. Exhaustion, as from lack of nourishment.
3. Lack of vitality or spirit.


It's actually ironic that this would be the word of the day. I've been feeling kind of empty or even mentally exhausted lately cause of personal reasons. MEN! Or in my case, it would be singular....MAN. Husband. What is it with them? I love him but he can sure be a pain in my you know what! Last night was a perfect example. We were arguing talking while watching TV. Well, to be more precise, we would watch the show (Speeders...lol) and as soon as a commercial came on, my husband would start in. Then the show would come on and he would shut-up. Commercial, start in. See the pattern? A.nnoy.ing!!!

So, can you relate to the Word of the Day? Tell me about it.

I've been tagged...

I've been tagged from Nikki over at Life as we know it..... Apparently, the rules are to list 6 weird things about myself. Alrighty, this will be a hard one but here goes anyways...

1. Like Nikki, I too am afraid of the dark.

2. I can drink a bottle of A-1 if I really wanted to. The stuff is so delish!

3. I get nervous when my house is messy.

4. I have to sleep with the TV on at night.

5. I set my alarm clock 1-1/2 hours before I actually have to get up.

6. I don't like to go to parties cause I get really nervous being around a bunch of people I don't know.

So now I am supposed to tag 6 people. Since I have 7 followers, I will tag all of you. I mean really, what's one more tagged person, right?!

Matt at My Side Of The Story

Christi at Random Acts of Christi

The Wife O Riley

Hula at My Secret Blog

Diamond at {My Pretty Pink Blogette}

Handbags & Handguns

Indiana Joynes and the Temple of Motherhood

The In-Laws

Okay everyone, pull up a seat and grab your coffee (or chai, in my case) cause most of you can relate to this topic. I seem to have all the crap when it comes to this too.

What is it with in-laws? Is it a rule that they must be the pain in the ass that they so live up to be? The problem we have is, since my husband is the "black sheep" of the family (because he has his life together and the rest of the kids do not, weird it would be this way but it is), the in-law business is played out to both of us. Fun for us both!!

Let me set the scene for you....

My husband & I have been together forever, you already know that. We got married after 8 years of dating, we had our child a year later and then we bought a house a couple years later. When we bought our house, everyone was excited for us. We didn't have a housewarming or anything like that. So I guess that means no housewarming gifts??? Not even from our parents? Okay, it was never something that crossed our minds, no biggie......until now!

One of my husband's sister (whom he doesn't talk to. Long story. Good for it's own little post one day.) Well, she is a drama girl. Someone who wants all the attention. It's all about her and you can just screw off, basically. To give you an idea of how she is:

When she was getting married, she asked my husband to be one of the groomsmen. He was a last minute guy cause they needed someone on the men's side to compensate for her girl's side. So, anyways....she had invited me to her bridal shower. Well, so happens my dog died the day of the shower. My dog whom I had for 12 years. I was devastated. My husband called to cancel for me. I was just not in any mood to going to this shower. Well, because I cancelled, she called my husband back up later after and said she was taking him out of her wedding. My husband said "Are you sure about this? Cause if you call me back, I will not play your game and that will be it. I will be out of your wedding." She said yes, that she was sure. Well, sure enough....not more than a few minutes later she calls my husband back up asking him to be in the wedding still and he told her to forget it. He gave her the opportunity to change her mind and she chose not to. Nice sister-in-law I have, huh?! I can go on about a couple other stories on her but again, maybe for another post.

So, back on track here. This sister of his and her husband just bought a house. Well, one day recently my husband was talking with his dad and his dad mentioned that he bought the sister a fridge for their new house for a housewarming. Mind you, they hadn't moved into this house yet. Nor did they have a housewarming party. So this is where I say...."WHAT???? SHE gets a housewarming and we didn't?" Mind you, there is favoritism in this family....obviously! My husband was like "Must be nice! We sure didn't get one when we bought our house." You know what my father-in-law's response was?? "Well, you didn't ask for one." WHAT??? Since when do we ask for someone to buy us a housewarming? How tacky is that? My hubby then said "Well, okay then, can we have a laptop. Just one of the cheaper one's?" His dad was asking where and which one but do you think we ever got it? NO!


I'll tell you. All of my husband's sibling are such moochers. Anytime we all go to dinner, we pay for ourselves while his parent's pay for everyone else. There are 2 still living at home with mommy and daddy. One is almost 40 and the other almost 30 who also has his fiance living there with her kid from some other guy. What is wrong with people? I'm so glad that my husband is the normal one out of the bunch!

My Husband!

I truly love my husband! I wouldn't have been with him for 16 years if I didn't.....but I do have a bone to pick with the man.

When sports are on (which seems to be ALL THE TIME, whether it be the game itself, the highlights or when it's on the nightly news, it's always on), I can never seem to get my man's attention. It's like he is oblivious to everything around him. Take yesterday, for example:

My husband is sitting on the couch watching......that's right, sports. My daughter was sitting on the couch next to him doing her homework. The rule in our house is homework is to be done at the kitchen table. Makes sense, right?!

Me: "S", get your butt at the table and do your homework.

Daughter: But I'm doing it.

Me: You know the rule. Homework is to be done at the table. I don't want you watching TV while doing it.

Daughter: But I'm not.

Me: I don't care if Daddy's here or not. (She previously told me that he allowed her to do her homework on the couch. tsk tsk) You know the rule in this house.

I leave the room to use the restroom. I yell across the house to see if our daughter is still sitting on the couch. My husband says that she is. So now, at this point I'm getting annoyed cause since my husband was sitting right there, hearing all of what just went on but because sports is on, he was oblivious. You would have thought that he would have said "You heard your mom. Get your butt to the table and do your homework." but noooooooo! I have to yell it across the house to enforce it since I'm in disposed. Finally at that point he does. UGH!

Or how about this morning. I'm trying to get myself ready for work and my daughter ready for school. The only thing my husband is responsible for is himself and a sandwhich for my daughter, unless she get's hot lunch. Today was hot lunch day.

So again, what's my husband doing? Getting ready and watching ESPN. As we're getting ready to walk out the door, his eyes are still glued to the TV. He sees that I have to go but he doesn't help with anything unless I ask for it.

Me: I gotta go. (sounding rushed)

Husband: Pause. Eyes still glued to TV.

Me: Can you put the dog in the kennel? (again, sounding rushed and annoyed)

My thing is, why do I even need to ask for help??? Here, I just got our daughter and myself ready and I would think he would sort of ask if there is something he can do. I mean really, we go through this every day. Wishful thinking, I guess.

Sometimes I just wish men would think like women. Relationships would be so much easier, don'cha think?! ;o)

What The Mommy Needs

I was browsing around, jumping from blog to blog and I came across Matt at My Side of the Story. He had a fun little post that I thought I would participate in since I was having a mind freeze and couldn't think of what to write today. If you would like to participate, make sure to head on over to Matt's.

Here's what you do... Go to Google and type in your name followed by the word "needs". List the FIRST 10 THINGS that show up. No searching around for something better!

So here are my results:

1. The mommy needs a cocktail. Boy, do I ever!

2. The mommy needs coffee. Well, I'm not much of a coffee drinker but I will take a chai!

3. The mommy needs to know. I thought I had all the answers?! Don't tell my child that ;O)

4. The mommy needs a break. I'm actually getting it right now!

5. The mommy needs a dog, I'm sure of it! What makes you so sure I don't already have one?!

6. The mommy needs to clean the house. That is on my list today. Just straightening though. I keep a clean house already!

7. The mommy needs to go to work. No I don't! It's my day off. ;)

8. The mommy needs to go to a doctor or dentist. My appointment is already made!

9. The mommy needs coffee as well as the lyrics to Momsense here. I already got that coffee, oh what...it was chai! And what is this Momsense you speak of??

10. The mommy needs chocolate. How did you know??!!!

It's your turn to play! Tell your friends!!