The In-Laws

Okay everyone, pull up a seat and grab your coffee (or chai, in my case) cause most of you can relate to this topic. I seem to have all the crap when it comes to this too.

What is it with in-laws? Is it a rule that they must be the pain in the ass that they so live up to be? The problem we have is, since my husband is the "black sheep" of the family (because he has his life together and the rest of the kids do not, weird it would be this way but it is), the in-law business is played out to both of us. Fun for us both!!

Let me set the scene for you....

My husband & I have been together forever, you already know that. We got married after 8 years of dating, we had our child a year later and then we bought a house a couple years later. When we bought our house, everyone was excited for us. We didn't have a housewarming or anything like that. So I guess that means no housewarming gifts??? Not even from our parents? Okay, it was never something that crossed our minds, no biggie......until now!

One of my husband's sister (whom he doesn't talk to. Long story. Good for it's own little post one day.) Well, she is a drama girl. Someone who wants all the attention. It's all about her and you can just screw off, basically. To give you an idea of how she is:

When she was getting married, she asked my husband to be one of the groomsmen. He was a last minute guy cause they needed someone on the men's side to compensate for her girl's side. So, anyways....she had invited me to her bridal shower. Well, so happens my dog died the day of the shower. My dog whom I had for 12 years. I was devastated. My husband called to cancel for me. I was just not in any mood to going to this shower. Well, because I cancelled, she called my husband back up later after and said she was taking him out of her wedding. My husband said "Are you sure about this? Cause if you call me back, I will not play your game and that will be it. I will be out of your wedding." She said yes, that she was sure. Well, sure enough....not more than a few minutes later she calls my husband back up asking him to be in the wedding still and he told her to forget it. He gave her the opportunity to change her mind and she chose not to. Nice sister-in-law I have, huh?! I can go on about a couple other stories on her but again, maybe for another post.

So, back on track here. This sister of his and her husband just bought a house. Well, one day recently my husband was talking with his dad and his dad mentioned that he bought the sister a fridge for their new house for a housewarming. Mind you, they hadn't moved into this house yet. Nor did they have a housewarming party. So this is where I say...."WHAT???? SHE gets a housewarming and we didn't?" Mind you, there is favoritism in this family....obviously! My husband was like "Must be nice! We sure didn't get one when we bought our house." You know what my father-in-law's response was?? "Well, you didn't ask for one." WHAT??? Since when do we ask for someone to buy us a housewarming? How tacky is that? My hubby then said "Well, okay then, can we have a laptop. Just one of the cheaper one's?" His dad was asking where and which one but do you think we ever got it? NO!


I'll tell you. All of my husband's sibling are such moochers. Anytime we all go to dinner, we pay for ourselves while his parent's pay for everyone else. There are 2 still living at home with mommy and daddy. One is almost 40 and the other almost 30 who also has his fiance living there with her kid from some other guy. What is wrong with people? I'm so glad that my husband is the normal one out of the bunch!

My Husband!

I truly love my husband! I wouldn't have been with him for 16 years if I didn't.....but I do have a bone to pick with the man.

When sports are on (which seems to be ALL THE TIME, whether it be the game itself, the highlights or when it's on the nightly news, it's always on), I can never seem to get my man's attention. It's like he is oblivious to everything around him. Take yesterday, for example:

My husband is sitting on the couch watching......that's right, sports. My daughter was sitting on the couch next to him doing her homework. The rule in our house is homework is to be done at the kitchen table. Makes sense, right?!

Me: "S", get your butt at the table and do your homework.

Daughter: But I'm doing it.

Me: You know the rule. Homework is to be done at the table. I don't want you watching TV while doing it.

Daughter: But I'm not.

Me: I don't care if Daddy's here or not. (She previously told me that he allowed her to do her homework on the couch. tsk tsk) You know the rule in this house.

I leave the room to use the restroom. I yell across the house to see if our daughter is still sitting on the couch. My husband says that she is. So now, at this point I'm getting annoyed cause since my husband was sitting right there, hearing all of what just went on but because sports is on, he was oblivious. You would have thought that he would have said "You heard your mom. Get your butt to the table and do your homework." but noooooooo! I have to yell it across the house to enforce it since I'm in disposed. Finally at that point he does. UGH!

Or how about this morning. I'm trying to get myself ready for work and my daughter ready for school. The only thing my husband is responsible for is himself and a sandwhich for my daughter, unless she get's hot lunch. Today was hot lunch day.

So again, what's my husband doing? Getting ready and watching ESPN. As we're getting ready to walk out the door, his eyes are still glued to the TV. He sees that I have to go but he doesn't help with anything unless I ask for it.

Me: I gotta go. (sounding rushed)

Husband: Pause. Eyes still glued to TV.

Me: Can you put the dog in the kennel? (again, sounding rushed and annoyed)

My thing is, why do I even need to ask for help??? Here, I just got our daughter and myself ready and I would think he would sort of ask if there is something he can do. I mean really, we go through this every day. Wishful thinking, I guess.

Sometimes I just wish men would think like women. Relationships would be so much easier, don'cha think?! ;o)

What The Mommy Needs

I was browsing around, jumping from blog to blog and I came across Matt at My Side of the Story. He had a fun little post that I thought I would participate in since I was having a mind freeze and couldn't think of what to write today. If you would like to participate, make sure to head on over to Matt's.

Here's what you do... Go to Google and type in your name followed by the word "needs". List the FIRST 10 THINGS that show up. No searching around for something better!

So here are my results:

1. The mommy needs a cocktail. Boy, do I ever!

2. The mommy needs coffee. Well, I'm not much of a coffee drinker but I will take a chai!

3. The mommy needs to know. I thought I had all the answers?! Don't tell my child that ;O)

4. The mommy needs a break. I'm actually getting it right now!

5. The mommy needs a dog, I'm sure of it! What makes you so sure I don't already have one?!

6. The mommy needs to clean the house. That is on my list today. Just straightening though. I keep a clean house already!

7. The mommy needs to go to work. No I don't! It's my day off. ;)

8. The mommy needs to go to a doctor or dentist. My appointment is already made!

9. The mommy needs coffee as well as the lyrics to Momsense here. I already got that coffee, oh what...it was chai! And what is this Momsense you speak of??

10. The mommy needs chocolate. How did you know??!!!

It's your turn to play! Tell your friends!!

California Rain

We all know that it rains here in California, right?! Well, it does. We do bask in the sun much more than other states, no all, but most. I have to admit, I truly love the sun and the sunshine it brings. It makes me happy while the rain is depressing. I have also lived here my whole life and know nothing different. I refuse to move. I don't like the snow (except to visit) and I'm afraid of hurricanes and tornado's. I however do enjoy my earthquakes. Call me crazy! Maybe because I haven't been physically affected by them.

So anyways, we have rain in the winter. Nothing new. You would think that people who live here would know how to drive in it, right? WRONG! This whole weekend was saturated with stupid drivers. It's like they forget how to drive or it's that they're scared to drive in the rain. If that's the case.....GET OFF THE ROAD PEOPLE!! An accident is waiting to happen with them on the road.

Here's a few scenarios for you:

1. I'm driving home yesterday and I have a few cars in front of me. All of a sudden, everyone brakes and almost comes to a complete stop. I'm wondering what the heck are we stopping for? There isn't a light or a stop sign ahead. What could be holding us up? I decide to change lanes and it's some fool stopping for air! HUH?! Come on people!!

2. Or how about when they think driving up to 20 miles under the speed limit is safe.

3. Also, the other day my husband had some chick stop at a red light. It's a turning lane to turn right.

The rule: Make a complete stop. If it is clear, you may proceed to make your right hand turn unless otherwise noted (which it wasn't).

This chick decided to sit there until the light turned green. He had to sit there while all the other traffic went. I told him "Why didn't you honk?" I didn't get a response though. Then the chick decides to drive really slow getting onto the freeway. Maybe being cautious? Maybe a little too cautious. Who know but if a cop were there, I'm sure she would have gotten a ticket.

I say just drive people. Not crazy though! If it's raining, slow down to a normal speed. If you're afraid to drive in the rain, don't drive then. It's bad enough that people out here are always in such a hurry. Throw in some rain, a scared, slow driver in the mix and it'll just lead to disaster.....or road rage!

Do you have any "stupid driver" stories?

He Loves Me!

My husband and I have been together for many years, 16 years as a matter of fact! We've had our ups and downs, don't get me wrong, but at the end of the day it is him that I want to spend the rest of my life with. After so many years together though, I can't help but wonder if he still loves me the same way he did when we got married. Does he love me more or less? Yesterday he confirmed that for me.

First, let me start of by saying that he was an ass to me yesterday morning. I'm not one to sit back and take it either. I gave him my fair share of slaps in the face with my words. I didn't start it though. I also must add that he is a typical male when it comes to apologizing too. I usually get "Well I'm sorry!" with the whole "well shit, what do you expect" kind of attitude. Apology NOT excepted, buster!!

So, at dinner last night (out of the blue, mind you) he says "I'm sorry about this morning" with the most genuine look and sound. I looked at him and said thank you and then........ yep, I sure did! I was a total girl and broke down crying. He asked why I was crying and I told him that I could tell it came from his heart. He then went on to say "well, I'm just really happy right now and you make me happy. I sometimes forget that and I don't mean to." Then he looks at our daughter and says "You really have a great mommy!" Then my daughter says "Yeah, you're the best mommy in the whole world!"

OMG!!! Can I really express how much I love these two people??!!!! They ARE simply the BEST!!!

I know this is my place to vent but I also want to share these sorts of stories too because my husband doesn't like me to share this kind of stuff either. So, shhhh......let's keep this a secret ;O) Awww heck, everything about this blog is a secret! No one knows about it but YOU and ME!

Have a great weekend everyone!

The Boss!

Normally when I go to work, the day is pretty good. Especially when the boss has to go a client's and then is out the entire day. Those days are truly the BEST! However, when he is there, he tends to get on my nerves.

I would say we have a good rapport. He can joke and so can I. He says to curse if I need to, that it's good to "let it out". Fine! So I do when the time is fitting. And believe me, he does to. In fact, he'll even slam the phone continuously if something pisses him off. Whatever floats his boat! He's old enough to be my dad so he tends to come across as being mine which I don't like. I have a dad, I don't need another one!

So, he is a CPA. Yes, it's that time of the year too. He is rushed to complete returns and so it leaves him on edge at times. Which means, he tends to be short or in laments terms......is an ASS! Oh, and did I mention? He like, hangs onto every fucking word I say too!

So yesterday, he has me call a bunch of clients who haven't sent in their tax information. I dread this task every time cause I know he's gonna be listening in on each phone call conversation. I get nervous and he knows that. So when he gave me the list of clients, he reminded me not to "Hmm and Haw", meaning.....don't go "uh" or "well" or "hmm". He said the clients can hear that and it come across as if I don't know what I'm talking about. Fine!

I started making my round of calls and I think I was doing really good but he grasped on a couple words of mine and would correct me. FUCK! Quit listening in!

I later told him that I know he listens which makes me nervous so naturally I'm gonna "hmm and haw". I even do that anyways in my everyday chatting. He's just making it worse by ease dropping. He said that I need to practice my speach ahead of time. I don't need to practice, I need him to NOT listen. I even make a point to put the phone in my right ear and face my body towards the left (cause his office is on my right) just so that it drowns it out a bit. I guess it helps some.

I even came home bitching and moaning about this. I just can't wait until tax season is over. He'll be on vacation for two GLORIOUS weeks while I can have my own vacation at work without him!

Join Me!

Hello everyone!

This is my first post here. I'm not new to the blogging world either. This is my alter-ego blog. I do have another blog out there but this one allows me to say the things I need to say to get off my chest and not have to worry about offending my family or friends.

Please join me here as I will have a confessional once a week for anyone that needs to get things off their chest also. Don't we all know that at times, there just isn't anyone there to listen and I have found on my other blog that it helps. I will post soon about this upcoming, weekly post.

So, let out your alter-ego here!